“Essentialism” by Greg McKeown, begins by acknowledging that life is full of responsibilities and opportunities, making it difficult to focus on what truly matters. McKeown’s concept of Essentialism, which involves pursuing fewer but better opportunities and eliminating nonessential tasks, is a valuable approach. These concepts resonate with me because for many years, I had a habit of always saying yes whenever something was asked of me.

The book reminded me of this story in my life. One day I wanted to spend some time with a friend (I’d find out later she wasn’t a genuine friend, but that’s another story). I asked her to join me in an activity I’d hoped we both would find enjoyable and she turned me down flat, saying she only wanted to spend her off time doing things she enjoyed. I was a little hurt, but more importantly, it brought into focus the things I’d been doing half-heartedly because I’d agreed to, not because I wanted it. Surprisingly, one of those things was volunteering to work with kids in a group she ran. To be fair, she volunteered me. It was a time suck taking my Friday afternoons, and I was basically a glorified babysitter. The other ladies or parents who were a part of this group (ages 4-16) never provided the promised help, and I was expected to come up with activities for them to do. Not to mention my own children weren’t even a part of this group.

After mulling this over for a week, I put in my resignation. She was shocked, but I had other things I wanted to do in my free time that would bring me joy and this wasn’t doing that. You might say I weaponized her point, or it was petty revenge, but honestly, I hated it.

After this epiphany, I said no to things I didn’t want to take part in and found my time freeing up. Well, as much as it could with a family, farm, office job, and side hustle.

But now back to the book: The book offers valuable principles for discerning what is essential and avoiding the fear of missing out. It also emphasizes the importance of intentional decision-making and prioritizing personal well-being. However, certain messages in the book, such as denigrating acts of charity and suggesting that parents should devote their entire lives to their children, didn’t sit right with me. I think parents need to nurture themselves along with their children. There can be a balance. I also question the author’s recommendation to avoid helping others. I’m not the most philanthropic person, but I will offer my time and expertise to charities and people I care about.

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https://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-Greg-McKeown-audiobook/dp/B00IWYP5NI