Do you plan for the distant future? Where do you see yourself 5 years or even 10 years down the road? Are there action steps you could be taking now to make that happen? Or is the goal so lofty you don’t know where to start?

I’m a planner. I’ve fallen into some planning traps with distant future planning. Eventually, Mr. V and I want to be able to RV traveling around the country. This is an idea I’ve had for quite a few years but only started voicing it to Mr. V about 2 years ago. He seems to be on board with the idea but has some trepidation.

Covid 19 has caused a massive jump in people wanting to travel in a safer way, and while I applaud them am not a part of that crowd. We have been taking a slower approach to this. Almost so slow that I admittedly get impatient because I’m feeling no progress has been made.

This leads to a feeling of helplessness. Although everything looked great on paper, I felt like I was failing, and now I think I know why. We had not made any smaller milestones to feel like we were advancing. My goal setting to work toward this plan was lagging because I was having trouble figuring out the steps. Partially because Mr. V can be very indecisive, and this affects him as well. So I want equal input.

I’ve stepped back and gave him time to figure out what would make him feel more comfortable. When we sit down to have our chat about what we want to accomplish as a couple the next year, we can come up with some sort of plan that will get us moving forward.

In retrospect, it was very overly gung ho of me to think we could be further this year, honestly. Sometimes we shoot too high, and we have to learn from it. I need to remember that’s OK also.